Monday, November 30, 2009

No, a mighty little word

How many times
did you hear your parents say no when you were a young child? Perhaps it was the first word that you understood. Maybe it was the tone of voice or maybe it was instinct, but clearly it helped us understand the meaning of no. I am sure that every one of us has little or no recollection of that learning process, but certainly we learned the meaning.


So what does it mean to us today? Usually, when one of us says no, it means that we don't want to do whatever! Sometimes it may be because the option is unacceptable or simply we don't agree. Regardless, no usually means no. It doesn't mean maybe; it doesn't mean ask me later because I might change my mind; it generally reflects one's commitment to a particular position at that moment in time.


What are the consequences of saying no? Certainly, for a parent it might prevent an injury or alter a learned behavior that is undesirable. For an adult, it just might mean that we are expressing our position with regard to a question or difference of opinion. Regardless, each of us has to be prepared to defend that position.


As for me, knowing when to say no is worth knowing, wouldn't you agree?

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